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Standing On Gods Word.....04/21/2010

Good Morning and Blessings Upon You

 Can You Hear Him....."Although the Lord gives you the bread of adversity and the   water of affliction, your teachers will be hidden no more; with   your own eyes you will see them. Whether you turn to the right   or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you,   saying, "This is the way; walk in it."  Isaiah 30:20-21

 Many of the couples we meet with daily or talk with on the phone and some because of distant communicate by email follow the same format.  First, a hurting and wounded spouse relates historical details of their marriage.  Second, they outline what is happening right now, and third, they are looking for answers to hard questions they are facing.  These life-changing decisions will impact the future of not only that person, but also the future and possible the eternal destiny of their spouse, their children and other family members, not to mention those they will come in contact with.  These are not matters to be taken lightly.  Some may involve legal concerns, financial matters or child custody issues.  Answers do not come easily.

Then often there is another part.  The spouse who is standing for their marriage will say, "My friends say..." "Everyone thinks I should..."  "I was counseled to..."  "Everyone is telling me..."  "My parents said...".  It is totally understandable how a man or woman facing these life changing, (and life-impacting) decisions would want to make certain they are 100% on target. However one needed to be very careful whom and from where these answers are coming from.

We rejoice at times when the spouse says distinctly, "I sense that God wants me to..." or "I have prayed about this and God is leading me too..."  As long as what they are hearing does not come against what God has already said. He will never go against His Word! God will direct His Children according to His Word and it will be in the direction of marriage restoration that is God's will given to those who are seeking Him and His way.

 If a rocket were launched to the moon and it left Cape Kennedy only 1/10 of a degree off course, it would miss the moon by tens of thousands of miles.  Can you see how the decisions you are making today will effect where you and your spouse will be in a month, year and years to come, if they are not where God wants you, you could miss the mark of His will for your family by a long shot?

 We often ask, "What is God telling you to do?"  Many times the spouse will then relate how they are having difficulty hearing from God.  Often they are looking for God to give them a powerful shove in the right direction, when that is not His way. Our Lord leads and guides each of us with His gentle nudges. Then of course there is His Word and then there are those who can direct a spouse to God’s way by showing them in God Word what He has said.

Do you recall the video of an assassination attempt on President Ronald Reagan as he was entering his limo outside a Washington hotel?  A Secret Service agent saw what was about to happen and in a split second floored the President, attempting to knock him out of harm's way.  That is how we often expect God to guide us in making decision.  Since He does not work by crisis, the Holy Spirit gives gentle nudges to each of us, in the way we should go and the actions we should or should not take. We need only to make sure we are hearing from God and not the enemy of our soul.

 I can tell you in all honesty that God speaks to me all day long.  Hopefully, I am listening and obedient.  He is not shoving me around, but gently guiding me.  Obedience is my part of His speaking to me. Some who attend our Sunday School class clearly should know what Obedience can do for us and Yes what disobedience can also do.

Even as I am sitting here typing in my study the Lord is speaking God did not need to knock me off my feet, President Reagan style, in front of the keyboard to reveal His will to me, Norma and I have been at this for 23 years and if there is anything we can trust in is His will and His way!

The issue is not if an individual is receiving messages from the Lord, but if they are hearing Him.  If your television was turned on, but with the volume all the way down, would that set still be receiving sound?  Certainly it would, but you would not hear it and so you would not be listening.  I thought I would use an example everyone would be able to understand.  We each need to be careful that we have His Holy "volume" turned up to a level where we can hear. The “volume” should be set at “here I am Lord, speak to me.”



Standing On Gods Word.....04/28/2010

What Are You Thinking…
 
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and
adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4
 
1) Do I look pure on the outside to everyone else — but in reality have I merely settled on a middle ground somewhere between paganism and obedience to God’s standard?
 
2) Do I get any sexual gratification from anyone or anything other than my spouse?
 
If you do, then you aren’t keeping yourself and your marriage bed “undefiled” as the Bible tells us to do. I don’t know one true Christ follower who doesn’t WANT to be a man or woman of sexual integrity. Yet at the same time I believe most Christian men and many women struggle greatly in this area of their lives.
 
First, I had to personally come to realize that I cannot mix God’s standard for sexual integrity with my own — because mine will always fall short of God’s. It isn’t a matter of “what I can and can’t get away with” in what I allow my eyes and mind to focus on, but rather staying away from everything that even hints at being wrong.
 
Why even go there? What’s the point of “playing so close to the edge?”
Is that kind of behavior something that would please God?
Is it a place where God would want to go with you?
Where there is too much confidence in your own strength as well as reckless regard for the consequences, a fall is very likely.
 
Obtaining even a hint of sexual gratification from someone of the opposite sex by writing to them, talking to them, viewing them in real life or in pictures, on the computer or any other form where you would be embarrassed if Jesus were with you, is a form of adultery.
 
“But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named
among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse
jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no
fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance
in the kingdom of Christ and God.” Ephesians 5:3-5
 
Yes, if you are a child of God, He IS with you.
 
“Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then
take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute (or a woman that you
are viewing as if she were one)? Never! Do you not know that he who unites
himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become
one flesh.” 1 Corinthians 6:15-16
 
The Bible tells us to flee from immorality (as the Bible says that Joseph did when tempted by Potifar’s wife). We’re told to “throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.” And anything or anyone that we allow for even a brief time to sexually entertain us, apart from our wife or husband that we don’t flee from entangles us into sinning. And make no mistake about it, this type of sin is addicting.
 
Pornography - Experts say that it is “the fastest growing addiction in the world, and is the addiction of choice among “Christians”.
 
How tragic! It’s one of the reasons so many outside of the church point to us as a bunch of hypocrites. And it has to be angering and breaking the heart of God. As God’s children, we’re God’s Holy Temple, so whatever dirt we bring into our lives, we’re throwing at God as well.
 
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body,
but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your
body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from
God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God
with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
 
So don’t try to normalize any sexual behavior that dishonors God and your spouse —justifying it as “harmless” or “only natural” or saying that it “isn’t a big deal” — because it is a big deal. You give the enemy of our faith a foothold every time you entertain your sexual appetite apart from enjoying your spouse alone in your sexuality.
I personally made the decision over 25 years ago to flee from feeding this type of behavior. It’s a continual battle, but it’s worth it. For me, that means turning away from TV, media ads, and any images that are the least bit suggestive.
 
It means that I “starve” my eyes to such an extent that whenever a woman or an image of a woman begins to tempt me to think impure thoughts, I instantly remove my eyes and my mind away from it as many times as it takes until it is gone. It’s a matter of starving that which I don’t want to grow. I only want to feed that which is beneficial to the health of my marriage and my spiritual life.
Yes pornography has become the weapon of choice for the enemy of our soul, many other sexual problems begin because of this tool of the enemy. So we must do everything we can to prevent the destruction and the demise of our marriage…our marriage bed…our home…and our family!
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring
lion, seeking whom he may devour.” 1 Peter 5:8
 
If I look like a fool to others, I don’t care. I’m not viewed as a fool to those most important to me — my God and my wife. I came to realize that holiness and purity are achieved by a series of choices that I make every day.
 
For me, the choices that help me are:
(1) “To set no vile thing before my eyes” Psalm 101:3) and
(2) “To put to death sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires” Colossians 3:5-6
 
I pray you will join me in making the choice to live according to God’s standards for purity.
Become accountable with someone you know will hold your feet to the fire over this serious matter.
Search for the help God can bring your way for a “way of escape” when you are faced with temptation.
Stay in the Word and pray for grace to keep you strong in the battle.
And above all else, pray for purity as David did in Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
 
Sisters don’t condemn yourselves. A husband will work hard at convincing his wife and others that the addiction [to pornography] is her fault. He does this to lessen his own guilt, but don’t subscribe to such thinking. Beating yourself up is nonproductive and pointless. It also invites self-pity and therefore sin.
 
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Romans 8:1
God doesn’t want us to condemn ourselves. Neither does He want us to deceive ourselves into thinking we’re perfect. We should always be open to correction and change, but God’s way of achieving transformation is through LOVING instruction, not brutal condemnation.
How are you doing with the battle in your mind? Are you refusing to ‘compare’ and ‘condemn?’ Are you thinking right? If so, you’re free to begin ‘doing.’ The first item on the ‘to do list’ is to increase your understanding and its dangers.”
 
Husbands and wives: We pray you will flee from sexual temptation and sin, do what you can to sexually enjoy each other only, refrain from even the “appearance of evil” and educate yourselves on these matters. Do it for your sake and also to someday help to educate your children before their minds become exposed to things that can draw them into such addictions that can ruin their lives and marriages.
 
RRight now if there is something or someone in your life that ought not to be in your mind or your heart ask Jesus first to forgive you and then flee from the temptation, DO NOT give ANY way for that sin to continue. REPENT and ask Jesus back into your life! Keep the faith by being faithful to your spouse and the love in your marriage by only having eyes for them. Ask Jesus to help you He will…

 

Standing On Gods Word.....05/05/2010

Good Morning and Blessings Upon You

Thank you so much to those who attended last night’s service!

Report, Report, What And Who’s Report Will You Believe? 
Scriptures to Read: Numbers 13 and 14
  "Your name will be Abraham, for I have made you a father of
  many nations. I will make you very fruitful; I will make
  nations of you, and kings will come from you. I will establish
  my covenant as an everlasting covenant between me and you and
  your descendants after you for the generations to come, to be
  your God and the God of your descendants after you. The whole
  land of Canaan, where you are now an alien, I will give as an
  everlasting possession to you and your descendants after you;
  and I will be their God."  Genesis 17:5-8

How many of us have heard, read or studied the story in the Bible about God making a covenant promise to Abraham?  The Israelites would be His people and He would be their God. He promised to give them a land flowing with milk and honey - a promised land.  In fact, after Abram was ninety-nine years old and Abram's wife Sarai still had not conceived, the LORD appeared again and said:
  "I will confirm my covenant between me and you and will greatly
  increase your numbers...No longer will you be called Abram;
  your name will be Abraham, for I have made you a father of many
  nations. I will make you very fruitful."  Genesis 17:2,5

Whose report would Abraham believe?  Would he believe what he could see in his natural eye or believe what the Lord had spoken to Abraham as a promise?  Isaac was born.  This promise was going to come to pass from God and had been spoken from generation to generation, from fathers to their children, from Abraham to Moses.  Now the Israelites were almost ready to see their promise come true.  They were on the edge of their promised land and all they had to do was listen to Moses and obey God. 
  "The LORD said to Moses, "Send some men to explore the land of
  Canaan, which I am giving to the Israelites. From each
  ancestral tribe send one of its leaders." So they went up and
  explored the land from the Desert of Zin as far as Rehob,
  toward Lebo Hamath. At the end of forty days they returned from
  exploring the land."  Numbers 13:1-2,21,25

I pray that you will read Numbers 13 and 14 some time today to get the impact of the commands and instructions that God gave Moses and the disobedience that caused severe consequences to God's people.  Are you listening and obeying the Lord for His promises for the healing, restoration and increase of your marriage which will impact your children, grandchildren and many generations to come as long as the Lord should tarry?
  "They came back to Moses and Aaron and the whole Israelite
  community at Kadesh in the Desert of Paran. There they reported
  to them and to the whole assembly and showed them the fruit of
  the land. They gave Moses this account: "We went into the land
  to which you sent us, and it does flow with milk and honey!
  Here is its fruit. But the people who live there are powerful,
  and the cities are fortified and very large. We even saw
  descendants of Anak there."  Numbers 13:26-28

Can you hear the unbelief of the ten spies?  They looked at their circumstances and knew they would be defeated.  They did not trust in God or believe in the promises that had been passed down from one generation to another.  What would you have said to Moses?
  "Then Caleb silenced the people before Moses and said, "We
  should go up and take possession of the land, for we can
  certainly do it." But the men who had gone up with him
  said, "We can't attack those people; they are stronger than we
  are." And they spread among the Israelites a bad report about
  the land they had explored. They said, "The land we explored
  devours those living in it. All the people we saw there are of
  great size."  Numbers 13:30-32

Whose report would Moses believe?  Whose report are you going to believe every day of your spiritual journey toward a healed, restored and increased marriage?   
Do not allow your heart to become hardened because of your spouse's attitude, actions, words, sin or unfaithfulness.  Make sure you are investing time with couples who know and believe the Word of God about marriage.  If you have a hardened heart repent.  And allow the Lord to start directing your steps and make sure again you are with people who are speaking marriage healing and restoration to your life and marriage. Pray for your spouse’s heart to be touched and transformed forever, regardless of how long it seems it is taking, in the mean time make sure and pray that the Lord touch your heart and make changes in you also and then watch the Lord take you to your promised land — to your marriage restored and God Blessed marriage!  God is faithful! 
Remember to ask yourself how big is my God?  And then if you serve the same God I do…Do you believe all that the Lord has been speaking to you?
What is your bad report that you are facing today?  What circumstances have you so discouraged that you are thinking of giving up the fight for your husband or wife and marriage?  What words have been said that you dreaded to hear?  Pastor Norma and I hate divorce, because the Lord hates divorce and is never His will!
When the Israelites went to take the Promised Land, they had to fight battles with God's mighty power empowering them.  Remember, God will rout your enemies.  God is bigger than any of the bad reports or circumstances that are coming against you now and for forever!
Whose report are you going to believe?  There are consequences to disobedience, grumbling and complaining.  Are you going to believe the bad report of the evil one or the words from the Lord?  Do you believe in the Promises that are in the Bible? Yes those Promises are for you!
 
Never doubt that the Lord is on your side.  God is able to do anything!  What are you to do?  You must choose to believe and trust in God.  That is why you and I must study the Bible every day! Remember without Him we can not, however with out us He won’t. We are responsible for the possible and we leave the impossible to Him!
  "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask
  or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,
  to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout
  all generations, for ever and ever! Amen."  Ephesians 3:20-21
How many "buts" do you want to say to me or are you already saying them to God?  "But, you don't "know" what I am going through!  But, you don't know all that my husband or wife has done, has said or is doing or is saying.  But, you don't understand how hopeless my circumstances are!  But, my spouse has abandoned me and they are battling alcohol and drugs.  But, my spouse moved to a different state or country.  But, my spouse now has a baby.  But, my family, my pastor and church do not believe my sinful spouse will ever change or come home." Again how Great is your God…
Whose report will you believe?  Never forget, that God will make a way when there is no way!  Yes the Lord is more than enough, and can do all things, yes our God, is more than enough for all our problems regardless of what we are facing, as He is our Deliverer, Our Shepherd, Our Savior and Lord, Our Protector, Our Provider and our Healer. He is more than enough, so keep your eyes on Him!
As you study the Bible daily, you will think of the many different people who had to make a choice of whose report they would believe.  Is your marriage hurting is it dead?  Do you believe what the enemy is telling you or will you believe what the Lord is telling you? You have a choice.  Never forget the lessons that we are to learn from the Israelites, Moses, Joshua and Caleb. 
 
  "Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh, who were among
  those who had explored the land, tore their clothes and said to
  the entire Israelite assembly, "The land we passed through and
  explored is exceedingly good. If the LORD is pleased with us,
  he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and
  honey, and will give it to us. Only do not rebel against the
  LORD. And do not be afraid of the people of the land, because
  we will swallow them up. Their protection is gone, but the LORD
  is with us. Do not be afraid of them."...Of the men who went to
  explore the land, only Joshua son, of Nun and Caleb son of
  Jephunneh survived."  Number 14:6-9,38 

All the Israelites that God had brought out of Egypt, only Joshua and Caleb entered the Promised Land.  Only Joshua and Caleb had the faith and the courage to listen, believe and walk in faith every day.  Are you living by your fears and circumstances?  You must choose to become like Joshua and Caleb and believe what the Lord has promised and walk in faith and confidence because God is with you all the time!  Whose report will you believe?
I choose to believe the report Jesus gave:
“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:6
Jesus loves you so much!For This Reason Marriage Ministries.

 

Standing On Gods Word.....05/12/2010

Affairs of the Heart

My beloved is mine, and I am his. He feeds his flock among the lilies.
Song of Songs 2:16

During the many years of counseling Norma and I have communicated with a number of wives and husbands who are concerned about their spouses’ other relationships. The scenario goes like this:  
My spouse is very good friends with someone of the opposite sex. He/she spends lots of time with this person either on the phone or in person. I even overhear him/her talking about me and our marriage. I have expressed concern over this friendship, but my spouse repeatedly tells me that they’re nothing but friends and I’m just being jealous.

Sometimes the friendship existed before the couple got married, so the mate has had a platonic-but-close friendship with this special friend for years and has no intention of putting boundaries on it. Often the spouse who is expressing concern feels deeply betrayed and frustrated. And they should feel this way, their spouse belongs to them.

Many times what is going on is an emotional affair. Emotional affairs happen when a platonic friendship turns into a crush or thoughts are entertained such as, “If I were single, this is the person I’d go after.” Sometimes light flirting happens. When the spouse involved in the emotional affair gripes or puts down his or her spouse or discusses negatives about the marriage, verbal infidelity has occurred. Often verbal unfaithfulness coupled with an emotional affair leads to sexual infidelity. Please do not think this could NEVER happen to you…
Emotional affairs resemble a sexually chaste dating relationship. When coworkers have emotional affairs, they regularly do special things for each other, such as bake cookies or small repair jobs. They might walk to their cars together at the end of the day and spend breaks and lunchtime with each other. Many times when a man has an affair with his secretary, she starts out doing thoughtful, wifely things for him. This grows into a friendship, which blossoms into an emotional affair, which eventually becomes sexual.

In order to combat any chances of an emotional affair, some Christians run every time they see someone of the opposite sex. This is really only necessary if the person is spiritually, emotionally, or sexually weak. In such cases, the remedy lies in strengthening the marriage and his or her relationship with God to the point that fierce loyalty to the spouse and the Lord overrides temptation. People have to work and interact with people of the opposite sex. As most of you know in our ministry, Norma and I are surrounded by male and female acquaintances and associates, not to mention those couples we are working with. We’re both very careful to not let any of these friendships grow into a relationship that might lead to an emotional affair. If we sense someone is too interested, Norma and I report to each other with a “What do you think? Am I being paranoid or do you think this person might be trying to warm up to me?” Many times Norma and I validate what the other is sensing. Then we quietly put boundaries on that person. I’ve found that sometimes Christians who are wholly dedicated to the Lord can go from one emotional affair to another without realizing or recognizing what’s happening. The devil is very settle on how things like these happen, the best offense is your spouse stay close and always be aware, how people are looking and talking to you.

Occasionally baking cookies for business associates or walking to a vehicle together or having a business-related lunch, you must try your best never to have a lunch business or not alone with someone from the opposite sex, how ever the cookies and walking to a vehicle doesn’t automatically mean someone is having an emotional affair. These deeds can be a necessity or simply a polite consideration and nothing more. However, it’s wise to be on guard so that habitual kindnesses don’t grow into more…not only for you, but also for the other party. As the outgoing, friendly sort who talks to everyone, I’ve learned the hard way that those who are emotionally needy can view the offer of friendship as something more personal and serious. Now that I’m a much older and wiser man, I’m polite but careful to never give women a reason to think I’m available emotionally or otherwise. I also frequently mention God, my wife, and my family and keep conversations benign.

If you or your spouse has experienced an emotional affair, perhaps the marriage isn’t meeting the needs or fulfilling the one involved in the affair. I’m not saying that the emotional affair is the fault of the other spouse, but I am saying that often trouble in a marriage can drive inappropriate emotional attachments. In most cases problems in a marriage exist because both spouses contribute in some way. If an emotional affair turns into a sexual affair, and then into something more serious, the people involved will likely fall into a similar dysfunction again. These always seem to relive their actions over and over again.

Examine your heart for any signs of an emotional affair. If your spouse is uncomfortable with a friendship you nurture, put some boundaries on that friendship. Don’t enable a spouse’s inappropriate jealousies that are bred by control and insecurity, but be sensitive. If you’re spending time with and getting attached to a person of the opposite sex, your spouse will sense that and voice objections. Listen to your spouse. Don’t discount what he or she says. Always remember your oneness and acknowledge the need for mutual nurturing, this is part of your responsibility as husband and wife.
“I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine. He feeds his flock among the lilies.”
Song of Solomon 6:3

Remember that marriage is like a garden that must be tended. If you neglect the garden, what happens? Weeds and pests of all kinds get in, be watchful and allow nothing to come into your marriage that is not of God. How busy are you? How are you doing with quantity time? Do you and your spouse have enough time together to enjoy easy and relaxing conversation, or do you spend most of it dealing with problems or addressing only practical matters?  Remember LOVE we must get to a point that everything we do is because of LOVE, not any other reason. This then includes be faithful to our spouse with our affections that only belong to him or her. LOVE then allows you to be friendly and even a brother or a sister however the affections belong to the Lord and your spouse.

Father, please show me any emotional affairs I might be blind to. Also, make me aware of anyone who is too close to me. Help me put kind-but-firm boundaries on that relationship. I want to be faithful to my spouse sexually, verbally, and emotionally. And, Lord, please give my spouse the same desires. Give us the wisdom and discernment to avoid unhealthy emotional attachments that violate our wedding vows. Bring us to a point in our marriage where we can joyfully say, “My lover is mine, and I am my lover’s” and mean it.  Trust in the Lord for all your strength and trust in the Lord for your spouse, be in prayer for yourself and your spouse!

Jesus loves you so much!

 

Standing On Gods Word.....05/19/2010

Good Morning And Blessings Upon You…

Is There A "D" Virus In Your Marriage… -
Anyone who has a computer knows about viruses. An innocent- looking email with a misleading subject can actually be a virus that not only could harm the computer opening it, but also send the virus on to scores of other computers. We are thankful there are anti-virus programs available to filter out good from dangerous email and programs. 

This is an especially active time for viruses. Yes, computer viruses, but also for the D Virus, which is attempting to infect men and women around the world who are standing with God and praying for marriage healing, restoration and going up to the next level in their marriage and for a season of love and peace in their homes. How can you tell if your stand has been infected with the D Virus? Here are a few diagnostic tools:

* Doubt - "Did God really tell me to stand, or was it something I just dreamed up?"
* Despair - "This is hopeless."
* Division - Standers start majoring in the minor issues, instead of on the Word of God and Jesus. Soon their focus is on the issues, and not on their stand with God.
* Defeat - If Satan can't defeat you, he will defeat someone whose defeat will defeat you.
* Distrust - "Can (or will) God really do what He has promised me?"
* Distraction - Looking at your own (or someone else's) circumstances instead of focusing on God.
* Dispute - Attempting to fight the battles yourself, instead of allowing God to work.
* Disenchantment - "My spouse is not changing so why should I try?" (But what's happening on the other side of your mountain where you can't see?)
* Deceit - "No one knows about my secret sin." (But God knows and it is killing your stand for a healed marriage.)
* Devouring - "I will write and give them a piece of my mind!"
* Demands - "If God doesn't do something soon, I am giving up."
* Dating - "This person is only a friend, and I am so lonesome. I can handle going out and still stand."
* Divorce - "My divorce is final, so there is no hope for my marriage." (It does not matter what the records down at city hall say. The records in Heaven still say that you are married!" Remember until death do us part…
 
We encountered so many standers who are on the verge of giving up praying and standing with God for the salvation of a deceived spouse, and the restoration of their marriage. What happened? They failed to use the anti-virus program of God's Word and caught the D Virus. The good news is that the Virus is easily removed by following the instructions God gives:

* Doubt - "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him."  Mark 11:23
* Despair - "...and provide for those who grieve in Zion-to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of despair."  Isaiah 61:3
* Division - "So that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other."
I Corinthians 12:25
* Defeat - "I can do everything through him who gives me strength."  Philippians 4:13
* Distrust - "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and, he will make your paths straight."  Proverbs 3:5-6
* Distraction -  "But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made... "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her."  Luke 10:40,41-42
* Dispute - "Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out."  Proverbs 17:14
* Discouragement - "Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God's."
2 Chronicles 20:15
* Deceit - "Don't be deceived, my dear brothers. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows."
James 1:16-17
* Devouring - "If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other." Galatians 5:15
* Demands - "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." 
Galatians 6:9
* Dating -  "...'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."  Matthew 19:5-6
* Divorce - "Has not the Lord, made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. "I hate divorce." says the Lord God of Israel...."  Malachi 2:15-16
If you have decided to give up on standing, who will pray for your deceived spouse? Do you not care about their eternal destiny? What about the generational curse of divorce that is in your family and that YOU have an opportunity to stop? Or have the opportunity not to start. Have you not grown strong enough in the Lord to withstand the attacks from Satan? They are predictable when you are doing Kingdom work.

We pray that you will update "The Software" on your anti-virus program, the Bible, on a daily basis. Remember, the enemy attempts to defeat, but the Holy Spirit builds up. Who are you listening to?
Satan, the master deceiver, is actively misleading many “Christians” over the issues of marriage. He’s feeding thousands upon thousands of lies into the hearts and minds of many and attacking the very foundations of our homes. And the psalmist says, “If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

Psalm 11:3
Polls indicate that the majority of Americans do not believe in absolute truth. And this includes many who claim to be followers of Christ! As a result of this lack of conviction, we have a generation that is morally adrift and without direction. Please don’t allow any virus in your home, your marriage your life, today ask Jesus into your life anew, then walk out Christ in your life daily, then there will be no virus…and only victory!
Jesus loves you so much!

 

Standing On Gods Word.....05/26/2010

Good Morning And Blessings Upon You…
 
Careless Christians Do You Know Any… Are You One…
Sadly, for years the church has been guilty of being careless in our handling of the Word of God. We the church have also been careless in our handling of marriages and how the Word of God applies to marriages. I pray that when your faith is challenged by those who don't believe; when you are mocked and ridiculed for your belief in Christ, your belief in marriage that you will KNOW WHAT you believe, and WHY you believe it. Get in the Word, study God’s Word! Know what it says. Yes it could very well be your spouse that mocks your belief in the Lord, will you stand and show the love of Christ…
 
“For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword,
piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a
discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. And there is no creature hidden
from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we
must give account.”
Hebrews 4:12-13
 
God’s Word does not change, oh we may change, however His Word will never change. Does His Word change in your marriage, like in how you treat one another, care for one another and see one another…We also need to be careful not to be careless in our handling of salvation only through Jesus Christ. Our Savior paid the ultimate price for us with His own blood. That's why He so plainly put it:
 
“Jesus said to him, “I am the way the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father
except through Me.”
John 14:6
 
Simply put, there is no other way to heaven. Period. So if we know this and believe it, then way do we choose to live according to our way and desires? Is Jesus the center of your marriage? Do you believe He is there, listening and watching how we live out our salvation at home? And as no one comes to the Father except through Jesus, no one can really have a blessed and joyful marriage without Jesus at the center.
 
Are we careful not to be careless in handling the time the Lord has allotted us? What are you doing with your time, is there time for both of you? If not you need to make time, because it has been given to you! Yes at times it may be difficult, but it’s the way that leads to life. My brothers my sister, these days are getting darker; don't expect it to be 'business as usual.' Don't expect the devil to allow it to remain easy to hold to your 'narrow-minded' beliefs. Or do you have broad minded beliefs?
 
“Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to
destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and
difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.”
Matthew 7:13-14
 
“See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time,
because the days are evil. Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will
of the Lord is. And do not be drunk with wine in which is dissipation; but be filled
with the Spirit.”
Ephesians 5:15-18
 
But, be encouraged! We serve a victorious Savior. He's the King of all Kings; Lord of all Lords! He has promised to never leave us; never forsake us! We can endure, and do so victoriously!
 
“Whoever believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves
Him who begot also loves him who is begotten of Him. By this we know that we
love the children of God, when we love God and keep His commandments. For
this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments
are not burdensome. For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is
the victory that has overcome the world our faith. Who is he who overcomes the
world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?”
1 John 5:1-5
 
Can you say as Joshua said?
“And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom
you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other
side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you swell. But as for
me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
Joshua 24:15
 
Remember marriage is the foundations that God chose to use to build the human race on, it is also the foundation of the church it is the rebar that holds everything together when it is built on Jesus the Rock.
“If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?”
 
Psalm 11:3
Where ever you are in your marriage today, know that God has paid the price for you to walk in victory and to be an over comer, no matter the circumstances. You just have to believe, love and have faith in the Lord, He will do the rest!Today ask Jesus into your life, make a new vow to stand for your marriage like never before, to pray for your spouse, to love your spouse and serve them as you were serving the Lord! Allow Jesus to live in you and flow through you so the world can see that you are not careless with the things of God and so they can see what love really looks like, is Jesus living in you?

 

Standing On Gods Word.....06/02/2010

Good Morning Blessings Upon You…
 
Questions What Kinds Of Questions How About My Future?" -
 
  "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD,
  "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you
  hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and
  pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find
  me when you seek me with all your heart."  Jeremiah 29:11-14
 
“Am I really to stand for my marriage?  I am lonely.  How long do I have to wait?  What if my husband or wife never changes what if they never come home, what if they never love me the way I need to be loved? Is this a test to see if I will obey and have faith?  I see so many happy couples around, but why not me?  I am getting older, how long do I wait?  What if I get sick and need someone to help me?" What if my children never get to experience a happy home?” Will we ever learn to communicate?” Will he ever stop looking at other women?” Will she ever learn to respect me?” Will she ever want to do the things I want and like to do it?”
 
Does that sound like some of the thoughts that you battle every day in your mind with?  The enemy is attacking your mind, emotions and feelings.  My brother, my sister, take captive the thoughts you think every moment.  Are you thinking about dating or "getting on with your life?"  You must take captive your thoughts.  Who do you think is speaking to your mind, the Lord and Savior or the enemy, Satan who is out to steal, kill and destroy your marriage, you and your family?  Remember, you are in God's army and you are under attack, but God's has weapons that you are to use.  Are you using them?
 
  "For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the
  world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of
  the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish
  strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that
  sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take
  captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."
  2 Corinthians 10:3-5  
 
God created marriage, but divorce and disunity is from the enemy and many times we say or do things that actually push our spouse away instead of bringing them closer to us. Yes and this is happening in our churches, we hear about forgiveness and the power of the Lord yet we chose to do things our way and not allow the Holy Spirit to do what needs to be done.  Divorce is NEVER God’s answer!
 
Most of you know we train couples to counsel we also instruct them to enter into prayer and fasting for the family who has one spouse speaking separation or divorce.  You all know our position on divorce we choose God’s position and we hate divorce and so do our counselors…. Why because the Lord God of Israel says He hates divorce!
 
Imagine what the Lord could do if ALL churches would stand up and fight against the enemy who is coming into God's House and deceiving pastors, music and youth leaders, deacons, teachers and so many others.  Our churches need to be the lighthouse and hope for all couples who are having marriage problems so that the Lord can reveal His mighty power to everyone in the world by saving, healing and resurrecting hurting and dead marriages.  Imagine how many men and women would come to the church for help! And those that are hurting are in our churches even now, we need to be ready and willing to speak truth even if they don’t want to hear it.
 
  "Is anything too hard for the LORD?"  Genesis 18:14
 
Norma and I want you to understand that you do not have to give up on your marriage because your spouse may have fallen into the sin of unhappiness, anger, unforgiveness, adultery or some other sin or addiction. You need to start by truly surrendering you life and marriage to the Lord, have you done that, if yes then stand and wait! The Lord Jesus was sent to the earth to seek and save all sinners.  He can save and deliver any person, if we will only stand in the gap and believe, praying and interceding for their salvation and deliverance and the healing of your marriage your neighbors or the couple sitting next to you at church this coming Sunday!   
 
  "I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and
  stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not
  have to destroy it, but I found none."  Ezekiel 22:30
 
Are you standing in the gap for your marriage, for marriage’s in your family, marriage’s in your church, marriage’s in your work place, yes even marriage’s in your neighborhood…What is your future?  God knows your future and He wants to direct your every step.  Seek His face and invest time with Him praying and studying His Word daily.  Ask Him questions.  God does speak to His children. 
 
  "'Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and
  unsearchable things you do not know'"  Jeremiah 33:3
 
I know the fear that many have about all your tomorrows.  How you are going to pay the bills, pay for your apartment or house, take care of the children and still work and provide for your family. What will happen if you get sick?  Remember, to cast all your cares onto the Lord.  I know the pain and sorrow that you are feeling and you may have the enemy speaking many fears about your future.  May you always remember who holds your future in the palm of His hand.  Your spouse may appear to be on the top of the world, but remember that sin is fun for only a season and the consequences of forsaking God will end in spiritual and physical destruction. That is why you are praying and interceding for them.  There is a future hope for you, your spouse and your marriage! 
 
 "Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for
  the fear of the LORD. There is surely a future hope for you,
  and your hope will not be cut off. Listen, my son, and be
  wise, and keep your heart on the right path."  Proverbs 23:17-19
 
What has the Lord been saying to you? We believe that God is directing many hearts into a plan and purpose for restoration of their marriage and to help other marriages.  Every day we meet with couples many who are in the valley of decision and others who just want to strengthen their marriage and take it to the next level. Many who want to be used by the Lord to not only build their marriage but help build other marriages.  What words, signs, songs, or dreams has the Lord been speaking to you since the very beginning of your marriage and how He wants to use you both in His work?  Do you remember how many times the Lord has answered your prayers?  How many times has the Lord shown you His will and way for your marriage and for your future?  Will you believe in the promises that the Lord has spoken to your heart?  Go and pull out all your journals or notebooks and start reading and counting all the Words and promises that the Lord has been speaking to you over and over again.  If you still doubt, ask the Lord for another Word of confirmation and then stop doubting forever!
 
  "The word of the LORD came to me: "Son of man, the house of
  Israel is saying, 'The vision he sees is for many years from
  now, and he prophesies about the distant future.' "Therefore
  say to them, 'This is what the Sovereign LORD says: None of my
  words will be delayed any longer; whatever I say will be
  fulfilled, declares the Sovereign LORD.'"  Ezekiel 12:26-28
 
Please do not allow the enemy to discourage you because of the time that it is taking for your husband or wife to be obedient to the Lord's calling, He makes all things beautiful in His time. No, I am not saying it is going to take a long time that is not the case.  I have had to surrender my will and way to God's timing many times.  Trust the Lord with your time for He is the Lord over all time! God's timing is going to be perfect.  Do not give up or meddle and do what Sarah, Abram's wife did in Genesis Chapter 16.  She told Abram to sleep with Hagar, her Egyptian maidservant to start a family.  What a consequence of that sin, one we are still seeing to this day.
 
  "For it is written that Abraham had two sons, one by the slave
  woman and the other by the free woman. His son by the slave
  woman was born in the ordinary way; but his son by the free
  woman was born as the result of a promise."  Galatians 4:22-23
 
You need to learn to walk in faith and believe what the Lord is speaking to your heart.  The more that you grow and mature in the Lord, the easier it will be.  You are on a spiritual journey that has dividends far beyond what you can ever imagine.  You have been chosen, as Jesus chose His disciples.  He has a perfect plan for you and for your future generations.  Think big and imagine what some of your children and grandchildren will become if you will stay faithful and believe!  If you do not have children, imagine how your prayers affect people's lives during your lifetime.
 
Let me ask you a personal question?  Where are you spiritually?  Are you walking and speaking in faith that your husband or wife is going to change to God imagine in God's timing.  Never forget that Satan uses the same tricks and schemes as he is a liar and a deceiver.  He wants to deceive you to abort God's plan and future for you.  The Lord is very patient with you and your beloved spouse, so you also need to be patient and trust Him.
 
  "But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord
  a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a
  day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some
  understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone
  to perish, but everyone to come to repentance."  2 Peter 3:8-9
 
The Lord provides for the birds of the air.  He is going to take care of you and your family.  He will never forsake you, but the question is, "Are you forsaking your Lord by not believing and being obedient to His plan and purpose for your marriage?  Will you stand for your marriage forever?
 
  "But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a
  new heaven and a new earth, the home of righteousness. So
  then, dear friends, since you are looking forward to this, make
  every effort to be found spotless, blameless and at peace with
  him. Bear in mind that our Lord's patience means salvation,
  just as our dear brother Paul also wrote you with the wisdom
  that God gave him...Therefore, dear friends, since you already
  know this, be on your guard so that you may not be carried away
  by the error of lawless men and fall from your secure position.
  But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior
  Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.
  2 Peter 3:13-15,17-18

 

Standing On Gods Word.....06/09/2010

Good Morning Blessings Upon You…

“Christians”, humble, pray, seek, wicked – IF, THEN...
Are these just words? What do they mean to you, your family, your church our Nation?
“When I shut up heaven and there is no rain, or command the locusts to devour the
land, or send pestilence among my people, if My people who are called by My name
will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways,
then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”
2 Chronicles 7:13-14

How long and what will it take for “Christians” and the Church to wake up and see that we have come so far from God’s plans for His creation and Yes most importantly for His people (His children), how long? Divorce is still a word well excepted in the Church, when it is clear that divorce has never been God’s plan nor will it ever be…

“The Pharisees came and asked Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”
Testing Him. And He answered and said to them what did Moses command you?”
They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to
dismiss her,” And Jesus answered and said to them. “Because of the hardness
of your heart he wrote you this precept. “But from the beginning of the creation,
God made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father
and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, so then
they are no longer two, but one flesh. “Therefore what God has joined together,
let not man separate.” In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the
same matter. So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another
commits adultery against her. “And if a woman divorces her husband and marries
another, she commits adultery.”
Mark 10:2-12

We as “Christians” (called by His name) have refused to humble ourselves and instead have chosen to find ways out of our marriages, we have not prayed for strength or wisdom, we have not sought out the Lord and His help only our self-centered desires and wants, yes we have not turned from our wicked ways, how then do we as “Christians” plan to show the world that there is hope if we do not live the salvation life in our homes with our spouses…HOW?

“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Genesis 1:1

Yes He was preparing a place for His creation to live in. He gave us light, He divided the waters from the waters, and He created land. He allow the earth to bring grass, herb for it to yield seed, He created the fruit tree. He divided the day from the night and allowed them be for us signs and seasons, for days and years. He created the Sun, the Moon and created an abundance of living creatures in the waters and birds to fly above the earth.
Yes He created great sea creatures and every living thing that moves, yes cattle, creeping things and beast of the earth…THEN God made man in His image, according to Their likeness (the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost) to have dominion over all He had created, for He had created all for His purpose and for His pleasure, however for our benefit. Yes all part of His plan…THEN He created man.

“And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his
nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.”  Genesis 2:7
And for the first time God said something was not good…
“And the Lord God said, “it is not good that man should be alone; I will make
him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18

Yes brothers we needed we need a helper and God created one for us, one that we should never leave till He calls us home or He returns to take His bride home. This THEN is God’s foundation for all of humanity, and if we are to bring the light of Jesus to the world we MUST get back to God’s plan in our life, in our homes and in our churches how can we be what He called us when we can not follow His plans…

“The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be
called woman, for she was taken out of man. For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
Genesis 2:23-24

Yes If we would humble ourselves and turn back to God’s ways, His plan, pray and seek His face, turn from our wicked ways, STOP divorce in the Church then we can stop divorce in our communities, THEN He will hear from heaven and will forgive us our sins and heal our land…we need to start back from the foundation marriage that one flesh relationship….
His will, His word, and His works, yes authority His foundation… His benevolent intent in creating things “good” reveals His holy nature, let us return to Holiness!

God’s desire, God’s plans for His people have not changed. God is holy and just and pure. He tells us in the Scriptures to be as He is, so He expects His people to be holy, just, and pure. Not prudish, not dated, not cranky, but holy and just and pure.
We know this is possible, because He would never give us a directive that cannot be fulfilled. He also promised those who are His that He would transform us by His power. This has not changed neither has His plans! Will you take a stand for His way His plans His foundation…
Will you stand for God’s plan, will you ask Him into your life today, will you stand for your marriage, will you take a stand and say enough is enough and NO more divorce? Our Nation needs you to take a Stand! Pray, fast and continue to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness!
Jesus loves you so much!

Please if you can watch this if you are at home crank up the volume! Thank you for sharing this.
http://www.greatdanepro.com/Pray%20For%20America/index.htm

 

Standing On Gods Word.....06/16/2010

How Well Are You Handling Your Spiritual Weapons?

  "For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the
  world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of
  the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish
  strongholds."  2 Corinthians 10:3-4

As you go, enjoy and work through this day, do you feel that you are walking on your spiritual journey toward your marriage moving to a higher level, or maybe being restored or healed in victory? Do you feel like the enemy is often sending all his demons to attack you and your family? You are not alone, I could sit here and give you a list of names we know for a fact that the enemy is out to try and destroy their marriage.
And know that the enemy will always turn up the heat in the homes where husbands and wives are praying for their spouses or for themselves to change. However you must know how power the weapon of both of you praying together is! I know as you read this, some of you may be saying, "Pastor Fred and Norma, you have no idea what is happening to me and my family." Yet for many of you we do know for others yes we may not know. We can say from our own perspective something is happening in the heavenlies by how the enemy is attacking so many, our loved ones and so many other standers and other ministries that we hear from, but always remember that God is greater.

  "...And I was delivered from the lion's mouth. The Lord will
  rescue me from every evil attack and will bring me safely to
  his heavenly kingdom. To him be glory for ever and ever.
  Amen."  2 Timothy 4:17-18
  "You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them,
  because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in
  the world."  I John 4:4

The enemy does not like Christians praying and interceding in agreement together. And it really does a number on him when couples are praying together everyday. You must stand firm knowing who you are in Christ and know and use your spiritual weapons daily. The enemy was attacking me the other day about the ministry and saying, “People don’t want help and instruction they just want some one to do all the work for them,” so I started praying, studying and speaking scriptures, as I knew that God's Word would not return void. The enemy was defeated. I cannot emphasize the importance of speaking God's Word when you are in a battle with your mind. Always remember the power of your tongue be very careful what you are saying or confessing with your tongue.

  "...If God is for us, who can be against us?"  Romans 8:31
  "I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound
  in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in
  heaven. "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree
  about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my
  Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my
  name, there am I with them."  Matthew 18:18-20

Norma and I want you to know that the Lord will fight the enemy for you, but you need to know who you are in Christ, the authority He has given you and then use your spiritual weapons. Do not allow the enemy to convince you that God’s Word does not work and that Christ is really not interested in your problems in your marriage in your family: The Word of God:

  "Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit,
  which is the word of God."  Ephesians 6:17
  "So is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return
  to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the
  purpose for which I sent it."  Isaiah 55:11

  "For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any
  double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and
  spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes
  of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God's
  sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of
  him to whom we must give account."  Hebrews 4:12-13

  "With your help I can advance against a troop; with my God I
  can scale a wall. As for God, his way is perfect; the word of
  the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in
  him. For who is God besides the LORD ? And who is the Rock
  except our God?"  Psalm 18:29-31

Are you investing some time everyday in studying the Word of God? Are you praying daily for your spouse with your spouse both standing for your marriage? How about praying for your spouse’s Salvation, is that something you need to do, don’t assume anything, keep the Lord close to you, your spouse and your marriage.
Do you pray specific scriptures that your spouse's heart, eyes and mind will be touched, are you praying that the Lord touch your heart with the power of the Holy Spirit? The Word of God is such a mighty weapon to use against the enemy every day. Never forget that is how Jesus defeated, Satan, the enemy, the tempter in the desert in Matthew 4:1-11. Today, study that scripture to encourage you about the power of the Word of God. 
Let us not become more like the world, here is a statement from a reporter named Jeffrey Zaslow of the The Wall Street Journal about the Gore announcement of divorce:
The Gores aren't offering explanations, but marital therapists and divorce attorneys say the breakup of long-term marriages is routine these days—for reasons of longevity, economics and cravings for happiness and self-expression that were less prevalent in previous generations. People are living longer, and they're less willing to spend their last decades with someone who leaves them unfulfilled. At the same time, working wives are less dependent on husbands for financial support, and husbands have Viagra and other new incentives to find other romances. The enemy knows that many are looking for self satisfaction and not sacrifice or true love or God’s way. Only a desire to be self fulfilled, this then is the way of the world and the way of the enemy… The Name of Jesus:

  "Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him
  the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus
  every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the
  earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to
  the glory of God the Father."  Philippians 2:9-11

  "For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same
  Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him,
  for, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be
  saved."  Romans 10:12-13

  "Then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the
  name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom
  God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you
  healed...Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no
  other name under heaven given to men by which we must be
  saved."  Acts 4:10,12

  "Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the
  church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of
  the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick
  person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he
  will be forgiven."  James 5:14-15

  "Peter replied, "Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in
  the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And
  you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. The promise is
  for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all
  whom the Lord our God will call."  Acts 2:38-39

You can not fathom the power that is in the Name of Jesus. When you repent and ask Jesus Christ to come into your life, your name is written in the Book of Life. Have you repented of your sins and asked Jesus Christ to become Savior of your life? How about Lord of your life? Can your spouse see, feel and hear the results of your repentance and your total surrendered life to the Lord…What does this have to do with the Gores or divorce, it has everything to do with it, does your life belong to Jesus…if so then you can NOT be one of these who is just looking out for self and doing things that is allowing the enemy to advance…sin separates us from God…

  "The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life   in Christ Jesus our Lord."  Romans 6:23You are in the Lord's army. Be proud and dressed for duty using the many weapons that the Lord has given you. God is greater than any of your enemies! And most definitely any of your problems!

 

Standing On Gods Word.....06/23/2010

Do You Have A Bulls Eye On Your Back?

“But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named
among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse
jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that
no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any
inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.”
Ephesians 5:3-5

Would you be surprised to know that over 48% of the people who have contacted us were in full-time ministry, their spouse was in ministry or one mate had denied God's call on their life to serve Him full-time? Marriages are falling apart on the platform as well as in the pews. 

Most studies report a higher divorce rate in the church than outside.  When an individual sets out to make a mark for Christ, Satan is the guy with the eraser. Instead Satan replaces it with a bull’s eye on your back…

Norma and I were recently advised about one pastor who planted a church a few years ago.  Working with God, this man built a successful church in the south out of his prayers.  On June 7, a letter was read to that church.  The pastor confessed an affair and had to walk away from his church, devastating thousands of people.  Last Saturday this fallen pastor wrote that 30 other men in ministry had contacted him in the past two weeks, confessing they also were involved in affairs. 

In time, God will bring each affair to light.  There is a tremendous price yet to be paid for sexual sins.
Do you get it?  If Satan cannot defeat you personally, he will defeat someone whose fall will be devastating to you. A good reason to make sure you are praying for those over you, yes that would include Norma and me. Do you know what area of ministry suffers the greatest attack? No, it is not the pastor/preacher, nor is it the teacher.  It is almost predictable while talking with a new person whose spouse has been in ministry, we discover that they were in some area of music ministry. Satan hates music that praises God.  The evil one will pull out every stop if it will hinder the praise and worship of God. In addition to being a fact, there is also some help for you here.  The next time you have one of those moments of despair that we each experience at some point, when the light we see at the end of the tunnel turns out to be a train, turn on praise music.

If you have a CD or cassette of praise music, turn it on in the background.  If not, find a Christian radio station that airs praise music.  If you do not know of one, start from the left end of the FM radio spectrum, from about 87.1 to 94.1. Many Christian stations are licensed for those frequencies. Christian music can be a big start in getting the enemy to stop tormenting you, to stop attempting to plant lies in your head. As most of you know every times that I do any teaching or preaching I have some worship music first to usher the Holy Spirit into the place that I will share God’s word. I never want it to be me teaching or preaching I want it to be the Holy Spirit to deliver the message. The enemy delights in sidelining anyone when they or someone in their family is in a position to accomplish much for the cause of Jesus Christ.
The couple down at the corner bar is no threat to Satan’s evil work, so he pretty much leaves them alone and centers in on the couple who has a calling and is starting to look and answer that calling.

When Norma and I were not walking with the Lord, neither of us had plans to be in ministry.  In fact when we first got saved neither of us had plans to be in ministry.
Then the Lord 23 years ago spoke to us that we were to minister and help other couples avoid what we had gone through. The call was clear and confirmed by our Pastor.
We were then released to go and teach couples not to make the same mistakes we had made in our marriage and to help them walk a closer walk with the Lord and with their spouse. It is not my intent to lay guilt on you, but I do need to remind you of something.  Could your child, presently living with one parent, be the next Billy Graham?  Could they become the Christian president our nation so badly needs? What if their becoming a product of divorce hardens their heart and disadvantages them to the extent that God's plan and purpose in their life are not carried out?

As we look at broken marriages in ministry, I need to share one of Norma's basic sayings with you.  She frequently uses these three little words.  The words are "Zip the lips." And if you have not heard those from her yet your time may come…If your spouse were to reach Norma by phone today, regardless of your family's prominence in ministry or obscurity in the family of God, Norma would tell you to "Zip the lips" about anything and everything your spouse might be doing or is doing.
She would say wait on saying anything about your spouse till we are all together, and make sure you are not talking to others about your spouse and your current circumstances.

The way home for any spouse, but especially for the spouse who was in ministry, is going to be far less complex if you, have not been "spewing out the garbage."
Another piece of advice you will hear from Norma is, “When friends or relatives ask how your spouse is doing, all you need to say is please keep praying for them”.
What you want is when your marriage is back where it should be you should  find it difficult to find anyone outside your home and counselors who know the specifics of all that has be going on or that your spouse has been involved in. But there is no shame in repenting and coming back to the Lord. Remember, Jesus left the ninety-nine sheep to go after the one lost sheep.  A lost spouse coming back to Jesus Christ and back to their family at the level they should be is nothing to feel guilt over.  If the Holy Spirit is pursuing a spouse and convicting them that what they have done is wrong, that person is being blessed by God.
Restoration to ministry may be (and should be) a lengthy process, but it is not too difficult for the Lord.  If Sister Busybody has a problem with a person coming out of sin and starting on the path back into ministry, please remember it is her problem and no one else's.
That family will be in God's will, as past wrongs are made right.

There is a valuable threefold lesson in hearing that Satan attacks ministry families far greater than others.  Foremost, we need to be praying for leadership families in the Christian community, that God would place a hedge of protection around them, blocking Satan’s subtle schemes.
We also need to be praying that they would seek help as soon as possible instead of hiding what Satan is doing in their home.
Secondly, for those of us in ministry, this should be a word of warning to avoid any and every situation the enemy might twist into the appearance of evil.  Our goal must not only be to avoid evil, but to avoid every action that anyone could ever remotely construe as inappropriate.
I heard a well-known pastor describe a scenario where critical judgment needed to be exercised.  One morning on his way to the church during rush hour, the pastor passed one of their church secretaries whose car had broken down alongside the expressway. 
It would seem sensible to call a tow truck and then give the stranded secretary a ride to church.

The pastor said that he never had a female alone in his car, except for his wife.  He could not risk having someone observe him and a female together and assume something that was not true.  In the incident above, the stranded secretary had to wait alongside the road for help, but that wise pastor's reputation survived what might have been Satan’s scheme to sideline his ministry. Another well-known pastor has said that at any type of reception, he will always ask for a Pepsi in a bottle.  Otherwise, he will drink nothing.  He could not afford to have someone photograph him holding a glass containing an unknown beverage.

The third lesson in knowing how often the enemy attacks ministry families are so that we can warn our children, both by word and by example, that Satan desires to destroy Christian marriages, and the marriages of ministry families. Remember in any situation, the road back home to where the Lord wants our marriages to be May seen to be difficult, but it is not a dead-end road.  God can heal, restore and rebuild your family, as well as your family's ministry, if you will allow Him to do so.
Norma and I are blessed to have been chosen by God to minister to several families in ministry.  The one concept they all have in common is that the more people who know about their struggles, the more people will also hear about their victories through Jesus Christ.

There is hope and a promise from God for you and for your marriage.  May you receive that today.
To many times we lose hope and believe God can no longer use us because of the situations we may go through in our marriages. However that being far from the truth, we need to be ready to receive help and seek help as soon as possible and not allow Satan time to work on our marriages!

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or
think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by
Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”
Ephesians 3:20-21

No matter what your responsibilities in the Church of Christ, you must be willing to pay the price of commitment. And commitment takes diligence and hard work.
Don’t assume that your marriage won’t have any problems. It will, just life. In fact, when Norma and I meet with couples the first time many have said, “We never dreamed this could happen to us. We never imagined we would be here in this situation.”Remember the enemy has put a bull’s eye on your back if you are wanting or currently serving the Lord and His children. Marriage is like a garden that must be tended. If you neglect the garden, what happen? Weeds and pests of all kinds get in. Care for your garden with the love of Christ and refresh your marriage with the water of the Word of God, share the Word with one another, and please do not forget to pray together!

 

 

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